Marriage

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MARRIAGE PREPRATION

Congratulations on your decision to enter Holy Matrimony in the Catholic Church. We at St. Anthony’s Parish welcome and rejoice with you! The celebration you are planning and the lifelong commitment you are choosing to make are signs of God’s great love for us all. One year prior to your anticipated wedding date, you should begin initial steps to begin the Marriage Preparation process. We are excited to be part of your decision to marry. This is a joyful time in your lives. We are here to support you and guide you through your preparation.

Mary Batey
Coordinator of Adult Formation

832-482-4147

mbatey@ap.church

WEDDING DAY RESOURCES

Your wedding day will take a great deal of planning and we are here to help. The Celebration of Matrimony is within the Liturgy and below are all the guidelines to keep in mind and follow. Please click the button below.

First Step : Initial Discussion, Scheduling, Documents

Fill out the “Request for Marriage” 

Upon receiving the Request for Marriage form, the Adult Sacraments Coordinator will reach out to you to confirm your Wedding Date and Time and provide you with some general wedding information to get you started.

 

Begin Collecting Documents  &  Make Wedding Payments

For the list of documents that are needed, please see below. For a list of wedding fees, please visit the Planning Your Wedding Day Page. Please note there are payment plan options and scholarships available. Payments can be made via Credit Card, Cash, or Check. Please notify the Adult Sacraments Coordinator on your preferred method of payment. The full balance of the Church Reservation Fee is due at 2 weeks before your wedding date.

Marriage Preparation Guidebook Marriage Documents Needed

Second Step : Prepare & Enrich and Clergy Meetings

Complete the “Prepare & Enrich” Online Questionnaire.

The Bride and Groom will each receive a login code by email so that you both take your Prepare-Enrich assessment online separately. There is an online one-time fee of $35 that covers the both of you to take this online assessment questionnaire. If you cannot pay this fee, please inform the Adult Sacraments Coordinator.

 

Clergy/Couple Meetings

You will meet with a clergy member for at least 3 meetings to go over your Prepare and Enrich results. You will discuss various topics and go over strengths and weaknesses in your relationship. After you complete these meetings you will be paired up with a Sponsor Couple.

Third Step : Sponsor Couple Sessions

During your Marriage Preparation process, you will be assigned a Sponsor Couple to journey with. You will be paired with a married couple living a happy, Christian marriage and they will share their experiences. 

 

Those preparing for marriage meet with a Sponsor Couple:

  • 5-6 outlined sessions: comprised of individual reflection, written assignments and dialogue.
  • In the Sponsor Couple’s Home
  • At mutually agreed on times
  • The sessions will begin after the couple has met with the Clergy.

 

If you are a married couple and are interested in becoming a Sponsor Couple, please email sponsorcouples@ap.church .

 

Fourth Step : Attend POMS

Preparation Of Marriage Sacrament Class (POMS)

You should plan on attending as soon as possible, early in your marriage preparation process.

Seeking Catholic marriage means you are prepared to begin your married life with Jesus at the center. This implies a desire for an ongoing practice of your faith for which you need a faith community. St. Anthony’s supports you in your preparation for the sacrament of marriage and we look forward to you attending the Preparation of Marriage Sacrament (POMS).

 

This necessary session is for all couples getting married at St. Anthony and elsewhere. It will enhance your understanding of marriage as a sacrament using various Catholic media, small groups, and testimony, furthering you in the process of preparing for your faithful life together.

Registration 2020-2021 Classes - COMING SOON

Fifth Step : Request Music for Wedding

Our office is here to assist couples with music preparations for weddings.  Music is a normal part of any Sacrament and we want to make sure that all music needs are met, so advance planning is important.   Your answers to the questions below will help us assist you in choosing musicians for your wedding.  Once confirmed, those musicians will then help you choose the music for your wedding.

  • PLEASE NOTE: If there is to be music in the liturgy, it can only be Live Music. You are not allowed to play music through a streaming site such as iTunes, Spotify, etc.

 

  • PLEASE NOTE: If you are using a professional outside musician, you still need to fill out the request for music form. The reason being is that all the music selected must be approved. There is set up required for all the equipment which requires a St. Anthony’s Technician to be present. This must be approved at least 6 months in advance.

 

  • PLEASE NOTE: If you are not planning on using St. Anthony Musicians, but would rather have a family member or friend sing for your wedding, it MUST BE APPROVED by our Music Ministry Department. You still need to fill out the request for music form. The reason being is that all the music selected must be approved. There is set up required for all the equipment which requires a St. Anthony’s Technician to be present. We cannot accommodate any last-minute “I would like _______ to sing a few songs at our wedding.” It all has to be approved by our Music Ministry Department at least 6 months in advance. 

 

 

Even though it is the norm, there are a couple of instances where music is optional.

  • If your wedding is to be held in our Chapel, music is optional. If you do not want to have music, then you do not need to fill out the request form. If you do want music, please fill out the request form below.
  • If your wedding is a Convalidation or a small private Wedding on a weekday, you are not required to have music.

 

If you have any questions please contact :

Josh Blakesley
Music Ministry Coordinator

jblakesley@ap.church

Request for Wedding Music

Sixth Step: Liturgy Selection For Wedding Ceremony

Please use the Rite of Matrimony guidebook (below) to guide you through this selection process. This needs to be submitted at least 2 months before your wedding so your Wedding Coordinator can contact you to discuss details of your rehearsal and wedding day. Any questions please contact :

Mary Batey
Coordinator of Adult Formation

832-482-4147

mbatey@ap.church

Rite of Matrimony Guidebook Wedding Liturgy Selection Form
Convalidation

The Catholic Church believes that marriages entered into by non-Catholics in their particular church, or wherever they may take place, are valid. In the eyes of the Church, even two atheists or agnostics who are married civilly before a judge or magistrate enter into a valid marriage. Catholics, however, are bound to observe a certain form of marriage ritual in order that their marriage be valid. Canon law—the law of the Church—requires that Catholics enter into marriage by free mutual consent that is witnessed in a church by an authorized bishop, priest, or deacon and at least two other witnesses. Marriages in which one or both parties are Catholic and which are not witnessed by an authorized bishop, priest, or deacon, or which do not receive proper permission to take place in another forum, are considered invalid in the eyes of the Church.

 

Simply put, If the couple has entered into a civil marriage and if either spouse is Baptized Catholic and they were not married in the Catholic Church, then they would need a Convalidation, to validate their marriage in the eyes of the Church.

 

Regardless of what happened in the past, the Catholic Church invites you to bring new meaning to your lives by embracing the vocation of marriage and dedicating your family’s mission to sharing God’s love.

Convalidations Explained
Convalidation Program & Process
Mary Batey
Coordinator of Adult Formation

832-482-4147

mbatey@ap.church

WEDDING COORDINATORS

We need you! We are in need of volunteers to be Wedding Coordinators here at St. Anthony’s! About 2 weeks before the Wedding Day of a couple, the Wedding Coordinator contacts the Bride and Groom and goes over the details of their wedding ceremony. The Wedding Coordinator is responsible for running the wedding rehearsal the day before the wedding. Then on the big day, they are responsible for setting up the church, and assisting the musicians, florists, photographers, and families as they arrive for this special day and making them feel at ease as they await the ceremony to start. This is a great opportunity to be a welcoming face and a calming presence on their big day.

 

Wedding Coordinators must attend the training session and assist a veteran Wedding Coordinator at 2-3 weddings before becoming a Wedding Coordinator Lead. Once you become a Wedding Coordinator Lead, there is a stipend for every wedding you coordinate. A schedule of Weddings is provided to the Wedding Coordinators so they can sign up for the ones they are willing and able to coordinate.

 

Mary Batey, the Coordinator of Adult Formation and Sacraments, would provide you will the information about the couple that you need to know in order to run their rehearsals and the wedding ceremony.

 

If you are interested, please sign up for one of our upcoming training sessions.

 

Los coordinadores de bodas juegan un papel vital durante el ensayo de la boda, antes, y durante la ceremonia de la boda. Ellos son responsables de la creación de la iglesia antes de una boda, que incluye ayudar a las familias a medida que llegan para este día especial y hacer que se sientan cómodos mientras esperan el servicio para empezar. Póngase en contacto con nosotros si usted está interesado en ser un coordinador de bodas.

Mary Batey
Coordinator of Adult Formation

832-482-4147

mbatey@ap.church

Wedding Coordinator Trainings
Annulments

 

The ending of a marriage is a difficult experience, and divorce is one of life’s tragedies. Many marriages end in divorce in spite of good intentions and the establishment of a family. We are sensitive to the pain and stress that a failed marital relationship brings to those involved. We are here to assist those who want to know more and those who want to file a petition for an annulment.

 

Want to talk to someone about the process and learn more about what an annulment is? Contact

Mary Batey
Coordinator of Adult Formation

832-482-4147

mbatey@ap.church

Information About Annulments

Types of Petition Forms

Please note…

There are different types of nullity petitions. To ensure that you do not complete an incorrect petition form, you must FIRST consult with a Case Sponsor at a Catholic parish. A Case Sponsor is a priest, deacon or lay person designated by the parish who determines what type of petition you must complete and assists you in the preparation of the petition. (There is no fee associated with obtaining a petition form or for the services of a Case Sponsor.) Contact us to get assigned a Case Sponsor. A petition will NOT be accepted without a Case Sponsor.

Formal Church Petition for a Declaration of Nullity Lack of Canonical Form Prior Bond (Ligamen) Petition Privilege of the Faith Petition
Marriage FAQs & Requests

1. When can I get married at Saint Anthony’s and do we do weddings on Sundays?

Depending on availability, due to preset & scheduled Liturgical needs or school functions, our church is normally available throughout the week AFTER 5pm with the exception of Tuesday/Thursday evenings, Saturdays in the Chapel at 11:30, Saturdays in the Church at 2pm or 7:30pm. STAOP cannot celebrate weddings on Sundays.

2. Should I secure the reception venue first or the church first?

ALWAYS secure the church first! It would be a shame to get the perfect date at the perfect reception venue only to find out that your favorite church does not have that date available.

3. I am Catholic but my fiancé is not, can we still get married in the Catholic Church?

YES! When you come in for your marriage preparation you will fill out a form called a Canonical Dispensation or Permission for a Mixed Marriage. This form covers baptized non-Catholics, non-baptized persons, Catholics who have notoriously rejected the Faith and lapsed Catholics.

4. I am divorced, re-married civilly and am now looking for my Catholic church to “Bless our Marriage.” Do I need an annulment in order to be married in the Church?

YES! Call our Marriage Preparation Coordinator to make an appointment for you to meet with a Deacon in order to start the annulment process. Even if it was a civil marriage to a non-Catholic/Catholic, this marriage needs to be looked at in order to make sure that there are not any existing legal/spiritual bonds as well as for the benefit of the person looking to re-marry to make sure that they are not getting into the same kind of previous relationship.

5. What is a Convalidation?

A Convalidation is a Catholic Marriage.  A convalidation is performed when one party (or both parties) were Catholic at the time of the non-Catholic marriage ceremony (civil ceremony or non-Catholic church ceremony).

i. The couple is not married in the eyes of the church

ii. The Church is not ‘blessing’ retroactively the non-Catholic, civilly recognized marital union

iii. A new consent must be exchanged (“Is your consent to this convalidation an act of the will by which you intend to enter into a valida Catholic marriage?”)

iv. A Catholic marriage only begins with the Catholic marriage ceremony.

6. I am Catholic and my fiancé is not, can I still have a Nuptial Mass?

YES! However, there are some things to consider. If the fiancé’s family is not Catholic, it could cause some tension when it comes time to receive communion when only you can receive and your fiancé cannot.
In this situation it is suggested to do a celebration outside of Mass called a Liturgy of the Word which includes the readings, prayers, consent [vows], but not communion.

7. Can we be married in the chapel during the week?

NO. Fortunately, we are blessed with having Perpetual Adoration here at St. Anthony’s from Sunday evening through Saturday morning – which means that the Blessed Sacrament is exposed 24 hours a day with the exception of Saturday afternoon and Sunday morning. You CAN marry on Saturday in the chapel, but only after 11:30am due to 10am daily mass.

8. Can we have a priest come and marry us at our reception venue?

NO. Catholic marriage is a sacrament and so it is celebrated within the context of a sanctuary. Unless the location is a place approved by the Archdiocese of Galveston-Houston which will require a special dispensation from the Bishop or Archbishop.

9. Can a Catholic priest, not from this parish, come and marry us?

YES! Please have them contact the Marriage Preparation Coordinator so that they can facilitate the letter to the Pastor asking permission for delegation within our territory. He will need a letter of good standing from his Diocese or Superior.